How to Feel Good – Without Drugs or Alcohol

Good Works = Path Closer To God, Not Further!

Have you  ever seen another human not related to you, you know… a stranger suffering ? Have you ever tried taking time out of your busy day to be genuinely kind to this stranger? if so then God bless you… you are on a better path than most.  But for the most part most of us see angry people or disheveled people as useless annoyances. Pick someone one day study them, NOT LIKE A STALKER, from afar. Choose someone you feel truly could use a break. Try helping them, help from the kindness of your heart.  Watch how repeated actions of this nature will in turn bring you up, raise your spirits, your self esteem and allow you to see how BLESSED BY GOD YOUR TRULY ARE! Helping others make us as humans feel good, the Devil does not want you to feel good, he wants you not helpful, miserable, angry and festering in his lies he  perpetrates! He is a fraud! like most of us he lives a lie!

Over the years I have lost friends and family to drugs, a series of mistakes and poor choices. Over time I realized I can blame them for their dumb choices, or I can try to look at how it got that way.  Being kind and thoughtful of their situation.  I have 2 brothers, 1 dad, all raised the same! We did not all turn out the same. We all take input from our world differently. I grew up in church, very wet behind the ear, kind, thoughtful and truthful.  Overtime the world hardened me, sent me down horrible paths.  These paths allowed the devil into my life, once he takes hold he gets to work on making you less of you! Taking bits and pieces of your peace of mind and self esteem, removing courage from you and forcing defeat by sin into our lives.

Anyone who knows me knows I have been woke, NOT WOKE LEFTIST, but CHIRSTIAN WOKE.  The devil’s plan is to confuse and gray right from wrong away, causing us to sin without knowing. The Democrat Socialist Lefty’s aks demoncrats, promote WOKE as a phrase.  This steals from GODS word in 2 ways.  First it causes us Christians to hate the LEFT WOKE SYNDROME, therefor cringing when we hear GODS WORD WOKE, DIFFERENT MEANING ALL TOGETHER! Secondly, for those that EAT THE LEFTIST WOKE CRAP, they CANNOT SEE GOD’S WOKE for long as they believe in HATING WHITE MEN AND LOVING GAYS as an AGENDA!

WHITE MEN ARE NOT A PROBLEM, EVIL PEOPLE ARE THE PROBLEM, THEY COME IN ALL COLORS.

“Today is my son’s birthday, he is 11 he is a present from God, I must make sure his path is as clean as possible so he does not stumble!”

Study: Doing Good Makes You Feel Good

There’s a new incentive to doing good things for others: It makes you happier, according to a new study.

Michael Steger, a psychologist at the University of Louisville in Kentucky, has always been amazed by how differently people lead their lives. Pat Tillman, for example, left the NFL to enlist in the Army and fight in Iraq and later Afghanistan (where he was killed), Steger said, but celebrity and socialite Paris Hilton continually pursues “a public life of shallowness.”

Steger couldn’t help but wonder which behavior makes people happier—seeking pleasure or doing good?To find out, he and his colleagues asked a group of 65 undergraduates to complete an online survey each day for three weeks that assessed how times they participated in hedonic, or pleasure-seeking behaviors, versus meaningful activities, such as helping others, listening to friends’ problems and/or pursuing one’s life goals.

The surveys asked the subjects how much purpose they felt their lives had each day and whether they felt happy or sad. The subjects also completed two sets of questionnaires at the beginning and end of the study to assess how they felt about their lives more generally.

They found that the more people participated in meaningful activities, the happier they were and the more purposeful their lives felt. Pleasure-seeking behaviors, on the other hand, did not make people happier.

Realizing that some people may feel guilty about reporting pleasure-seeking behaviors, Steger and his colleagues then modified the survey questions slightly to make them seem less exceptionable, and asked a new group of students to perform the study again, this time over a four-week period. The psychologists got the same results.

“A lot of times we think that happiness comes about because you get things for yourself,” said Richard Ryan, a psychologist at the University of Rochester, who was not involved in the study. But “it turns out that in a paradoxical way, giving gets you more, and I think that’s an important message in a culture that’s pretty often getting messages to the opposite effect.”

In order to make sure that the relationship between happiness and doing good wasn’t the other way around—that happiness instead leads people to do good things—the researchers looked at which tended to come first. They found that the subjects became happier after they did something good, suggesting that happiness does, in fact, come about as a result of doing good things.

The results of the study, to be published in the Journal of Research in Personality, present an “enormously optimistic picture of people, that as a cynic, I was very happy to see,” Steger told LiveScience. cited

Have you ever felt a rush after doing a good deed? Ever noticed you were more relaxed after a day of volunteering? Did you ever feel motivated to do good after thinking about the last time you helped someone? If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, there’s a good explanation for why – it’s called science.

International Good Deeds Day is almost upon us and it’s time to start rallying your friends, family, coworkers, and peers to join this global movement of doing good on April 10, 2016. If your fellow good doers are still in need of some convincing, here are seven scientific facts about the benefits of doing good to share with them.

WHY DOING GOOD MAKES YOU HAPPY: DO GOOD, FEEL GOOD PHENOMENON

Have you ever experienced the do good, feel good phenomenon? When you do habits you’re proud of, you feel happier. For example, when you help others, you feel a helper’s high – happy, proud, excited. And because you feel good, the cycle continues. Your happiness makes you want to do even more good.

But, when you are engaged in bad behavior, you feel kind of lousy. And then this bad mood simply makes you wind up doing even more negative behavior.

Guess what? A good way to snap out of this negative cycle is to do good for someone else – so you can tap into what researchers call:

“The Do Good, Feel Good Phenomenon.”

Researchers have discovered that the more people do acts of altruism, the higher they raise their self-esteem. And thereby the higher they also raise their happiness.

Researchers call this: helper’s high

(Scroll down for a poster I designed – which sums up this do good then feel happier philosophy!)

The “Do Good, Feel Good Phenomenon” works like this…

• When someone does something good for someone, they get a “happiness high” or what researchers call “helper’s high.”  (Note: I write about this more here. )
• This hit of feeling happier because you did something good makes altruistic people want to continue to do more positive, loving habits.
• By doing this good stuff, these people then continue to feel even better about themselves.
• By feeling better about themselves, this then makes these people want to continue to do even more acts of altruism.
• And onward the upward cycle goes!
  

  Unfortunately this cycle also works in the opposite direction.

  • The unhappy can become unhappier by indulging in negative behaviors.
  • When people do negative actions they then lower their self esteem.
  • When people lower their self esteem, they feel more unhappy.
  • As a result of this unhappiness, these people then want to do more negative behaviors.
  • When people do more negative habits, they further lower their self esteem, which then further makes them want to do negative behaviors – and soon they find themselves on a downward spiral.

  Down, down, down their bad mood, bad habit spiral keeps going.

  And down, down, down the results for their life goes.

  So, watch out for those downward spirals!

  Get yourself hooked on doing good and aimed in an upward spiral instead.

  Below is an inspirational quote poster I designed – which sums up this upward spiral philosophy.

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FACT: Doing Good Makes You Feel Happy

Have you ever heard of the so-called “do-good-feel-good phenomenon?” If not, here’s how it works.

When you do something good, you feel happier. A 2019 study revealed that performing acts of kindness – even to strangers – boosts happiness and well-being. So, let’s say, you help an elderly cross the street. There’s a part of you that feels genuinely happy because you know that you did an act of kindness to someone.

You Will Have Less Stress & Live Longer

That sensation is known as ‘helper’s high’ and is produced when your brain releases endorphins, the feel-good chemicals of the brain. When you do something good for someone else, your brain’s pleasure centers light up, releasing endorphin and producing this high.

So when you feel incredible because of altruism, you are more likely to do a selfless act to get that “happiness high” again. The feeling is very similar to the “runner’s high” where the brain’s pleasure centers light up.

The high of helping others is comparable to the “runner’s high” where the brain’s pleasure centers light up.

It’s basically like a cycle. This hit of “feeling good” is what pushes you to continue making more positive habits. A study published in 2013 showed that helping others increases life-expectancy due to reduced stress.

It’s a positive spiral where the more you help others the less stressed you are, and the longer you live. And less stress means you feel good, and when you feel good, you do good.

The more you help others the less stressed you are, and the longer you live

10 Days of Doing Good is Proven to Increase Your Happiness

Happiness is 50 percent genetic, says University of Minnesota researcher David Lykken. What you do with the other half of the challenge depends largely on determination, psychologists agree.

Two studies show that doing good deeds makes us happy. So fill up your 50% with happiness.

In one of the studies in the Journal of Social Psychology researchers in Great Britain found that good deeds do in fact make people feel good—even when performed over as little as 10 days—and there may even be more benefits if you mix up your acts of kindness, as the novelty of doing good seems linked to happiness as well.

But kindness may have a longer, and even deeper effect on our happiness (according to the second study, published online in the Journal of Happiness Studies and conducted by researchers at Harvard Business School).
This study showed people in general felt happier when they were asked to remember a time they helped someone else or bought something for someone else—even happier than when they remembered buying something for themselves.

In other words, thinking about what you’ve given others – and not only what you’ve received – will motivate you to do good again and again.

Thinking back on how you have helped others in the past gives you a feeling of happiness even today.

Unfortunately, it works the other way around too.

Have you ever noticed that when you do something bad, you feel terrible? And when you feel awful, you are more likely to do something horrible to the people that surround you.

This is often when you get to a place that centers more around yourself or seeking pleasure.

This negativity, unfortunately, affects everyone. So, unhappy people will – intentionally or not – continue to do more negative behaviours.

So why continue to spread negativity to the world when you can spread positive vibes instead?

Having someone else to help or another greater purpose is proven better for your mental health.

Here are a few tips to get your started spreading happiness around you:

1. Take your mum and grandma out for lunch.
2. Send an email praising a friend of colleague who deserves recognition
   Researchers also found that individuals in their mid-30s who rated helping others in their work as important, reported they were happier with their life when surveyed 30 years later.
3. Donate food, clothing, or volunteer your time to help others
   BMC Public Health journal has concluded that volunteering is also good for mental health. The review found that – along with improved well-being and life satisfaction – volunteering is also linked to decreased depression.
4. Do something good for the environment (recycle, use eco, reuse).
5. Help an animal.

These are just a few of the acts of kindness you can do.

By Stine Smith

In re Caden C.: The Supreme Court Recognizes No Parent is Perfect

“The dependency statutes were enacted to prevent harm to children. They prevent harm at the outset of the dependency process by removing children from situations where they are likely to suffer abuse or neglect. But they also prevent harm in the process of selecting permanent placement through the parental-benefit exception, by allowing certain children to preserve emotionally important parental relationships.” (In re Caden C. (2021) 11 Cal. 5th 614, 644 (“Caden C.”).)

At a hearing on termination of parental rights, the court is required to consider a “permanent plan” for a child in the following order of preference: adoption, legal guardianship, and long-term foster care. (Welf. & Inst. Code § 366.26, subd. (b)) The “parental-benefit exception” allows parents to prevent termination of their rights if, by a preponderance of the evidence, they can show:

1) “regular visitation and contact with the child, taking into account the extent of visitation permitted”;
2) “the child has a substantial, positive, emotional attachment to the parent — the kind of attachment implying that the child would benefit from continuing the relationship;” and
3) “terminating that attachment would be detrimental to the child even when balanced against the countervailing benefit of a new adoptive home.” (Caden C., supra, 11 Cal. 5th at 636; See also In re Autumn H. (1994) 27 Cal.App.4th 567; Welf. & Inst. Code § 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B)(i); Evid. Code, § 115.)

The California Supreme Court’s 2021 decision in Caden C. gives parents and children a small ray of hope when parental rights are at stake. It clarifies preexisting law, recognizing the humanity of parents in juvenile court and the importance of children’s relationship with them. It also clearly instructs judges to stop adding conditions to the parental-benefit exception above and beyond those already required by statute.

Factual and Procedural Background

The Child Welfare Agency (“the Agency”) removed four-year-old Caden from his mother’s care due to her drug use, suicidal ideation, and homelessness. Caden was placed with a non-related extended family member (“NREFM”) before returning to his mother’s care in July, 2014. Mother received Family Maintenance services until June, 2016 when the Agency removed Caden again due to her relapse.

The court was prevented by statute from granting Mother additional services. It made an order placing seven-year-old Caden in long-term foster care, in part to give Mother time to regain stability and sobriety.

In January 2018, the court set a “Selection and Implementation Hearing” pursuant to Welfare and Institutions Code section 366.26 (“.26 hearing”). After four days of trial, including dueling expert testimony, the court did not terminate Mother’s parental rights, finding that it would be detrimental to Caden to do so. Now about nine years old, Caden’s two remaining options were either legal guardianship or continued long-term foster care. Caden’s NREFM caregiver asked that Caden remain in her home under a plan of long-term foster care due to her concerns about Mother’s behavior if the court ordered legal guardianship. The court granted that request, and the Agency and Caden’s attorney appealed.

The First District Court of Appeal reversed, holding Mother’s parental rights should have been terminated. It found that “no reasonable court could have concluded that a compelling justification had been made for forgoing adoption.” (In re Caden C. (2019) 34 Cal.App.5th 87, 115.) It opined that there was little chance Caden would ever return to his mother’s care and that Caden’s relationship with his mother was sometimes difficult, rocky, and had not been perfect for many, many years, which undercut the trial court’s findings. The appellate court argued that Mother’s failure to address the problems which led to the dependency meant “no reasonable court would apply the beneficial relationship exception …” (Id. at p. 112.) It remanded the case to the juvenile court, strongly suggesting termination of Mother’s parental rights. (Id. at p. 116.)

Supreme Court’s Ruling

On review, the Supreme Court reversed. Its opinion obliterates the idea that the parental-benefit exception should not apply due to a parent’s ongoing struggles with sobriety. The Supreme Court pointed out that “…when the court holds a section 366.26 hearing, it all but presupposes that the parent has not been successful in maintaining the reunification plan meant to address the problems leading to dependency.” (Caden C., supra, 11 Cal. 5th at 637.) “[M]aking a parent’s continued struggles with the issues leading to dependency, standing alone, a bar to the exception would effectively write the exception out of the statute.” (Ibid.) “The parent’s continuing difficulty with mental health or substance abuse may not be used as a basis for determining the fate of the parental relationship by assigning blame, making moral judgments about the fitness of the parent, or rewarding or punishing a parent.” (Id. at p. 638.) Nor can trial courts use the implausibility of future reunification to undermine the parental-benefit exception. “Even where it may never make sense to permit the child to live with the parent, termination may be detrimental.” (Id. at p. 634.)

The Supreme Court’s decision rebukes the idea floating around in lower courts that parents are not only required to meet the three elements of the parental-benefit exception but also must demonstrate a some additional “compelling reason . . . termination of parental rights would be detrimental to the child…” (Id. at p. 631.) Caden C. states proving the three statutory elements of the parental-benefit exception is compelling enough.

Conclusion

If you have a parent client who is facing termination of their parental rights, you should always consider presenting expert testimony about the bond between the parent and child. Attorneys representing children need to seriously consider supporting legal guardianship to protect their clients’ rights to maintain beneficial relationships with their parents.
Caden C. has given dependency practitioners a great deal of hope and clarity. Generally, if social workers and minors’ counsel support termination of parental rights, it is nearly impossible to prevent the termination from happening. Caden C. clearly removes the additional requirement of showing a further “compelling reason” used by trial courts and the Court of Appeal to justify termination of parental rights.

cited https://www.cccba.org/article/in-re-caden-c-the-supreme-court-recognizes-no-parent-is-perfec/

In reversal, the California Supreme Court holds that the parental-benefit exception per Welf. & Inst.C. §366.26(c)(1)(B)(i) does not require heightened or additional showing in order to establish the exception; neither must a parent show that they are substantially complying with the case plan in order to establish the exception.

Caden C. was born in 2009 and lived with his mother until September 2013, when the Marin County Health and Human Services Department removed Caden from her custody because the two had been living in a car and his mother admitted to drug use and suicidal ideation. Caden was placed with Ms. H, a nonrelative extended family member. The juvenile court ordered Caden to remain in foster care and for mother to address substance abuse and mental health issues as well as attend parenting classes. At a July 2014 hearing, the juvenile court retained jurisdiction but placed Caden with his mother. His mother and Caden then moved to San Francisco.

In June 2016, after mother relapsed, the San Francisco Human Services Agency (SFHSA) removed Caden from his mother’s custody and filed a supplemental dependency petition. SFHSA placed Caden with Ms. H once again. Meanwhile, his mother reentered residential treatment and filed a petition to regain custody. After the juvenile court denied this petition, Caden’s mother abandoned her drug treatment. In May 2017, the juvenile court reduced mother’s visitation with Caden to once per month and set a Welf. & Inst.C. §366.26 hearing.

At the Welf. & Inst.C. §366.26 hearing, SFHSA argued that Caden was likely to be adopted, his mother’s parental rights should be terminated, and the juvenile court should enter a permanent plan of adoption. SFHSA’s expert, Dr. Lieberman, who did not interview or meet Caden, but who had participated in administrative reviews of Caden’s case, testified that Caden “has a very strong emotional bond with his mother” but that Caden needs ongoing support to address the trauma developed during his early years with his mother and that Ms. H. could provide the necessary support and comfort such that terminating his relationship with his mother would not be harmful to Caden. A social worker for SFHSA also testified that mother discussed her drug treatment in front of Caden, and, as a result, the Caden now talked about drugs and alcohol in detail.

Meanwhile, mother argued that terminating her relationship with Caden would be harmful to him. Mother’s expert witness, Dr. Molesworth, testified that Caden has an “intense bond” with his mother and losing contact with her would compound certain traumatic effects and could result in significant acting out during Caden’s adolescence. Dr. Molesworth concluded that although Caden has a positive relationship with Ms. H., terminating his relationship with his mother would be detrimental to Caden. In her testimony, mother expressed her fear that terminating their relationship would cause Caden to feel abandoned. On cross-examination, mother admitted to having an existing meth addiction.

After this four day hearing, the juvenile court found that Caden would likely be adopted but that mother had established the parental-benefit exception per Welf. & Inst.C. §366.26(c)(1)(B)(i), precluding termination of her parental rights. The juvenile court found that mother met each element of the three-pronged parental-benefit exception: (1) mother maintained regular visitation with Caden; (2) Caden benefited from the continuing relationship with his mother; and (3) termination of this relationship would be detrimental to Caden. Thus, the juvenile court declined to terminate mother’s parental rights and ordered Caden to remain in foster care while Ms. H. considered legal guardianship. SFHSA appealed, and the First District reversed, holding that due to mother’s ongoing struggle with substance abuse, no reasonable court could find Caden’s relationship with his mother outweighed the benefits of adoption. The Supreme Court of California granted review and reversed the First District.

Cleaning house. . .
The justices first addressed the issue whether heightened or additional showing is required to establish the parental-benefit exception. They noted that after the legislature amended Welf. & Inst.C. §366.26(c)(1)(B) to require a parent to show a “compelling reason for determining that termination would be detrimental to the child,” some courts have reasoned that the new language requires a parent to show a heightened level of harm or additional compelling reason in order to establish the parental-benefit exception. But after examining the legislative history of the amendment, the justices here determined that this interpretation is incorrect. In fact, the legislature added the “compelling” language to the statute merely to comply with the Adoption and Safe Families Act of 1997 (ASFA). This federal statute required a “compelling reason” in certain situations where a social service agency did not move to terminate parental rights or where a court declined to terminate such rights. The ASFA, however, did not specify what constitutes a “compelling reason,” so the legislature determined that the existing reasons in the statute satisfy the language in question. Thus, the amendment to the language of Welf. & Inst.C. §366.26(c)(1)(B) did not add a heightened or additional compelling element to the parental-benefit exception. In finding that no heightened or additional showing is required to establish the exception, the California Supreme Court disapproved opinions that have held otherwise, including In re Logan B., 3 Cal.App.5th 1000, 207 Cal.Rptr.3d 837; In re Jasmine D., 78 Cal.App.4th 1339, 93 Cal.Rptr.2d 644; and In re Casey D., 70 Cal.App.4th 38, 82 Cal.Rptr.2d 426.

The justices next turned to whether a parent’s ongoing struggles with issues that led to the dependency action can bar that parent’s showing of the parental-benefit exception. The justices held that there is no basis in the statute to find that such consideration may prevent application of the exception and that such a categorical bar “would effectively write the exception out of the statute.” Specifically, the justices noted that when a juvenile court holds a Welf. & Inst.C. §366.26 hearing, it necessarily terminates reunification services for the parent precisely because that parent has not been successful in maintaining the reunification plan. Calling such a categorical bar to the exception a “paradoxical proposition,” the justices held that parents do not need to show they are “actively involved in maintaining their sobriety or complying substantially with their case plan” in order to establish the parental-benefit exception, disapproving cases that hold otherwise, including In re Breanna S., 8 Cal.App.5th 636, 214 Cal.Rptr.3d 98; In re Noah G., 247 Cal.App.4th 1292, 203 Cal.Rptr.3d 91; and In re Marcelo B., 209 Cal.App.4th 635, 146 Cal.Rptr.3d 908.

Finally, the justices resolved the standard of the review for courts considering application of the parental-benefit exception, finding that the first two elements of the exception [whether there has been regular visitation and whether a beneficial relationship exists] shall be reviewed under the substantial evidence standard while the last element [whether termination of parental rights would be detrimental to the child] is more appropriately reviewed under a hybrid approach. The justices noted that factual determinations related to the third element shall be reviewed under the substantial evidence standard, but the ultimate decision whether termination of parental rights would be detrimental to the child requires a balancing of these factual determinations and must be reviewed for an abuse of discretion. Accordingly, the justices reversed the judgment of the First District. cited https://www.cflr.com/com/2021_07.php

IN RE CADEN C. No. S255839.

All too often, children experience harm—and shoulder long-term consequences—because their physical and emotional needs are neglected by their parents. In California, we rely on social services and statutory procedures to strike a delicate balance between protecting children from abuse or neglect and ensuring the continuity of children’s emotionally important relationships, especially with their parents. The resulting balance sometimes gives a struggling parent enough time and support to overcome deficiencies and regain custody. When such success is not achieved, the dependency statutes require the court to hold a hearing under Welfare and Institutions Code section 366.26.¹ At that hearing, the court determines whether to terminate parental rights, making way for adoption, or to maintain parental rights and select another permanent plan.

When making that fraught determination, a court must sift through often complicated facts to weigh competing benefits and dangers for the child. It must consider practical realities over which it has limited control and envision a child’s future under contingent conditions. And it must navigate situations that can change as quickly as the children before the court do.

To ease the court’s difficult task in making this important decision, the statute provides a carefully calibrated process. Even if a court finds by clear and convincing evidence that the child is likely to be adopted, the parent may avoid termination of parental rights by establishing at least one of a series of enumerated exceptions. If the parent establishes that an exception applies, the statute sets out additional steps for selecting a permanent plan for the child that preserves parental rights. Going step by step through the prescribed process, the court can somewhat more easily accomplish the statutory goals of protecting the parent and child from an overhasty termination of their relationship while ensuring that the child is expeditiously placed in a safe and stable home.

In this case, the trial court found that the parent had established the first of the listed exceptions, the parental-benefit exception.² This exception applies where the parent has maintained regular visitation and contact with the child, the child would benefit from continuing the relationship, and termination of that relationship would impose a detriment on the child. The Court of Appeal reversed. It held that because the parent continued to

struggle with substance abuse and mental health issues and because of the risks of foster care and benefits of the potential adoptive home, no reasonable court could find the child’s relationship with his parent outweighed the benefits of adoption.

The Court of Appeal did not explain how the parent’s struggles related to the specific elements of the statutory exception: the importance of the child’s relationship with the parent or the detriment of losing that relationship. Instead, the appellate court treated the lack of progress in addressing substance abuse and mental health issues as a categorical bar to establishing the exception. That conclusion was mistaken, so we now reverse.

I.

Caden C. was born in 2009 and lived with his mother (Mother) until he was four years old. In September 2013, the County of Marin Department of Health and Human Services removed Caden from Mother’s custody because Caden and his mother had been living in a car and Mother admitted to recent drug use and suicidal ideation. The court subsequently took and then decided to retain jurisdiction of Caden. It ordered that he remain in foster care and that Mother address her substance abuse and mental health issues and attend parenting classes. Caden was placed in foster care with a nonrelative extended family member, Ms. H. At a review hearing in July 2014, the court adopted the Department’s recommendation to retain jurisdiction but place Caden with Mother; Mother and Caden subsequently moved to San Francisco.

By June 2016, Mother had relapsed. The San Francisco Human Services Agency (the Agency) then filed a supplemental dependency petition and removed Caden from her custody. (See § 387.) The petition alleged that Mother had created an unhealthy relationship with Caden, exposing him to “conversations that cause fear and create behaviors that jeopardize his safety, emotional well-being, and education.” The Agency placed Caden back with Ms. H., but over the next year he moved through three other foster placements before being returned to Ms. H. The foster parents said they were exhausted by the multitude of services for Caden and expressed concern that visitation with Mother made it difficult for him to settle into their homes. During the same period of time, Mother reentered residential treatment and filed a modification petition to regain custody; the court denied the petition, and Mother disengaged from drug treatment. In May 2017, the court reduced Mother’s visits to once per month, limited her educational rights, and set a hearing pursuant to section 366.26. Mother appealed, filed additional modification petitions and appealed their denials, and sought extraordinary relief.

The juvenile court eventually held a section 366.26 hearing from January to February 2018. Over four days the court heard testimony from numerous witnesses for both Mother and the Agency. It also received reports from the Agency; a bonding study from Mother’s expert, Dr. Molesworth; a clinical consultation report from the Agency’s expert, Dr. Lieberman; and a letter from Caden. Caden indicated that he did not want to come to the hearing. In light of his wishes and to avoid further traumatizing him, the court relied on his letter and statements in the course of the bonding study to understand his feelings. (See § 366.26, subd. (h)(1).)

The Agency argued that Caden was likely to be adopted, that Mother’s parental rights should be terminated, and the court should order a permanent plan of adoption. The social worker indicated Mother sometimes discussed the case and her drug treatment in front of Caden, and described reports from caregivers and service providers that Caden talked about alcohol and drug use in detail. She testified that Caden was doing well in his current foster placement with Ms. H., had not been harmed by having fewer visits with Mother, and would be able to form a bond with Ms. H. that would mitigate the loss of his relationship with Mother. And the social worker testified that Caden reacted positively to living with Ms. H. but grew distressed at the prospect of not living with his mother. Dr. Lieberman participated in administrative reviews of Caden’s case starting in 2016. Dr. Lieberman testified for the Agency as an expert in parent-child bonding and attachment, with a specific focus in childhood trauma and its impact on children. She agreed that Caden “has a very strong emotional bond with his mother” but emphasized that “the narrowness of the bond poses a risk to [Caden’s] ability to devote his attention, energy, investment to developmentally appropriate tasks now of learning [and] socialization.” Dr. Lieberman also explained her opinion that Caden would need ongoing support to address the trauma from his early years as well as from separating from his mother, but that Ms. H. could provide him the necessary comfort and security such that termination of his relationship with Mother would not be harmful for him.

What Mother argued is that the court should not terminate her parental rights, because terminating her relationship with Caden would harm him. Numerous witnesses described how they’d observed the relationship. Mother herself testified that “I don’t want my son to ever, ever blame himself and think that he did something wrong or feel abandoned because I grew up, I grew up abandoned and feeling those things and I saw to it that my child has known he was loved and that he was a good kid and he had a heart of gold and that his heart resembled god. Like why would you want to take that from him? Because that’s exactly what it would do if you were to, if you were to take me out of his life.” On cross-examination of Mother, the Agency elicited testimony about Mother’s ongoing methamphetamine addiction. Dr. Molesworth testified for Mother as an expert in child psychology, bonding studies,

and the parent-child attachment. Based on his review of visit reports and visits he observed, Dr. Molesworth characterized Mother’s interactions with Caden as generally positive. He explained that Caden had an intense bond with Mother of the kind that might tend to impede Caden in forming relationships with others but did not seem to have done so in his case. Dr. Molesworth suggested that, given the intense bond, losing contact with Mother would compound Caden’s other traumas leading to significant emotional fluctuation, confusion, and acting out in the near term and in adolescence. On cross-examination, Dr. Molesworth opined that despite the descriptions of Caden’s relationship with Ms. H., terminating contact with Mother would have detrimental effects of the kind he had described.

The court found that Caden was likely to be adopted but that Mother had established the parental-benefit exception, precluding termination of parental rights. The court explained Mother “has been a constant and that is the relationship that the Court does need to focus on.” She “has maintained consistent and regular visitation and contact”; she “does stand in a parental role to her son”; and “the visits themselves have continued the significant emotional attachment that Caden and his Mother did create prior to his removals.” Mother “substantially complied with her case plan and although unsuccessful at times … has continued her efforts to maintain her sobriety and address her mental health issues.” As the court summed up its reasoning: “Caden loves his Mother. And he does derive benefits from his visits with her. The record does show that while he has a strong developing relationship with Ms. H[.] that relationship in and of itself does not negate the harm that Caden would experience from the loss of his most significant emotional relationship.” The court noted that “Dr. Lieberman did not interview or meet Caden” and emphasized that its review of both expert reports confirmed that “[Mother] and Caden have a consistent and positive relationship.” On that basis, the court found that “severing Caden’s relationship with his Mother would deprive Caden of a positive emotional attachment and greatly harm Caden.” It therefore declined to terminate parental rights and ordered the Agency to determine if Ms. H. would agree to serve as a legal guardian.

In an addendum report, the Agency explained that Ms. H. did not feel comfortable with legal guardianship. She had concerns about Mother’s demands for visitation and use of court process to disturb the placement. She expressed fear for her own safety and that of her family based on Mother’s erratic behavior over the course of July 2014 to August 2016. Ms. H. instead expressed a preference to further consider legal guardianship but keep Caden in her care for the time being as a foster placement. The court then ordered that Caden remain in foster care subject to periodic review, and the Agency appealed the decision.

The Court of Appeal reversed the trial court—but its rationale encompassed a conclusion we now find to be mistaken. (See In re Caden C. (2019) 34 Cal.App.5th 87, 116 [245 Cal.Rptr.3d 797] (Caden C.).) The Court of Appeal took particular issue with the trial court’s suggestion that Mother had “`substantially complied with her case plan’ and `continues her efforts to maintain her sobriety and address her mental health issues.'” (Id. at p. 110.) In so doing, it followed a recent trend in the Courts of Appeal to place great emphasis on a parent’s failure to make progress in addressing the problems that led to the child’s dependency. (See In re Breanna S. (2017) 8 Cal.App.5th 636, 648 [214 Cal.Rptr.3d 98]; In re Noah G. (2016) 247 Cal.App.4th 1292, 1302, 1304 [203 Cal.Rptr.3d 91]; In re Marcelo B. (2012) 209 Cal.App.4th 635, 643-645 [146 Cal.Rptr.3d 908].) The Court of Appeal also reasoned that the trial court “gave short shrift to uncontroverted evidence that long-term foster care posed substantial risk of further destabilizing a vulnerable child, fostered unhealthy and sometimes `toxic’ interactions between mother and child, and robbed Caden of a stable and permanent home with an exceptional caregiver.” (Caden C., supra, 34 Cal.App.5th at p. 110.)

We granted review to clarify the applicability of the parental-benefit exception—in particular, whether a parent must show progress in addressing issues such as drug abuse that led to the child’s dependency in order to establish the exception—and to resolve the standard of review for decisions regarding the parental-benefit exception.³

II.

Even when a court proceeds to select a permanent placement for a child who cannot be returned to a parent’s care, the parent may avoid termination of parental rights in certain circumstances defined by statute. One of these is the parental-benefit exception. What it requires a parent to establish, by a preponderance of the evidence, is that the parent has regularly visited with the child, that the child would benefit from continuing the relationship, and that terminating the relationship would be detrimental to the child. (See Welf. & Inst. Code, § 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B)(i); Evid. Code,

§ 115.) The language of this exception, along with its history and place in the larger dependency scheme, show that the exception applies in situations where a child cannot be in a parent’s custody but where severing the child’s relationship with the parent, even when balanced against the benefits of a new adoptive home, would be harmful for the child. While application of the beneficial parental relationship exception rests on a variety of factual determinations properly reviewed for substantial evidence, the ultimate decision that termination would be harmful is subject to review for abuse of discretion.

A.

If the court cannot safely return a dependent child to a parent’s custody within statutory time limits, the court must set a hearing under section 366.26. (See Cynthia D. v. Superior Court (1993) 5 Cal.4th 242, 248-249 [19 Cal.Rptr.2d 698, 851 P.2d 1307] (Cynthia D.).)

At the section 366.26 hearing, the question before the court is decidedly not whether the parent may resume custody of the child. (See In re Amber M. (2002) 103 Cal.App.4th 681, 690 [127 Cal.Rptr.2d 19] (Amber M.); cf. § 388, subd. (a)(1) [parent must show changed circumstances to get back custody of child during dependency proceedings].) In fact, it is not permissible to order reunification at the section 366.26 hearing. (See In re Zeth S. (2003) 31 Cal.4th 396, 411 [2 Cal.Rptr.3d 683, 73 P.3d 541] (Zeth S.); In re Marilyn H. (1993) 5 Cal.4th 295, 304-306 [19 Cal.Rptr.2d 544, 851 P.2d 826] (Marilyn H.).) Indeed, when the court orders the section 366.26 hearing, reunification services have been terminated, and the assumption is that the problems that led to the court taking jurisdiction have not been resolved. (See, e.g., In re Edward R. (1993) 12 Cal.App.4th 116, 126 [15 Cal.Rptr.2d 308].)

Instead, the goal at the section 366.26 hearing is “specifically … to select and implement a permanent plan for the child.” (Marilyn H., supra, 5 Cal.4th at p. 304; see also Cynthia D., supra, 5 Cal.4th at p. 250 [“`This hearing determines only the type of permanent home'”].) To guide the court in selecting the most suitable permanent arrangement, the statute lists plans in order of preference and provides a detailed procedure for choosing among them. (See § 366.26, subd. (b) [“In choosing among the alternatives in this subdivision, the court shall proceed pursuant to subdivision (c)”].) According to that procedure, the court must first determine by clear and convincing evidence whether the child is likely to be adopted. (See § 366.26, subd. (c)(1).) If so, and if the court finds that there has been a previous determination that reunification services be terminated, then the court shall terminate parental rights to allow for adoption. (See Cynthia D., supra, 5 Cal.4th at pp. 249-250.) But if the parent shows that termination would be detrimental to the child for at least one specifically enumerated reason, the

court should decline to terminate parental rights and select another permanent plan. (See § 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B)(i)-(vi), (4)(A).) As we have previously explained, “[t]he statutory exceptions merely permit the court, in exceptional circumstances [citation], to choose an option other than the norm, which remains adoption.” (In re Celine R. (2003) 31 Cal.4th 45, 53 [1 Cal.Rptr.3d 432, 71 P.3d 787], italics omitted (Celine R.).)

In interpreting the exceptions, we are guided by the relevant statutory provisions, read in context. (See, e.g., Ryan v. Rosenfeld (2017) 3 Cal.5th 124, 128 [218 Cal.Rptr.3d 654, 395 P.3d 689].) In particular, we take account of the connection the statute establishes—when an exception applies—between the “best interest” of the child and the continuation of parental rights. Parallel to the provision detailing the exceptions (§ 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B)(i)-(vi)), the statute provides that “[i]f the court finds that adoption of the child or termination of parental rights is not in the best interest of the child, because one of [those exceptions] … applies, the court shall” follow a process to select among permanent plans other than adoption. (§ 366.26, subd. (c)(4)(A), italics added.) In other words, when a parent establishes that one of the exceptions applies, adoption or termination is not “in the best interest of the child.” (Ibid.; see Stats. 1997, ch. 510, § 1, p. 3155; Sen. Judiciary Com., Analysis of Assem. Bill No. 329 (1997-1998 Reg. Sess.) as amended June 23, 1997, pars. 14-15 [“This section provides that termination would be detrimental to the child and should not occur when one of the following circumstances exists. [¶] … [¶] [T]he proposed language would provide that termination would not be in the interests of the child when one of the four exceptions applies …”].)

The exception at issue in this case is limited in scope. It applies where “[t]he court finds a compelling reason for determining that termination would be detrimental to the child due to one or more of the following circumstances: [¶] (i) The parents have maintained regular visitation and contact with the child and the child would benefit from continuing the relationship.” (§ 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B)(i).) From the statute, we readily discern three elements the parent must prove to establish the exception: (1) regular visitation and contact, and (2) a relationship, the continuation of which would benefit the child such that (3) the termination of parental rights would be detrimental to the child. In understanding these elements, we are guided by what has become the seminal decision interpreting the exception, the Fourth District Court of Appeal’s opinion in In re Autumn H. (1994) 27 Cal.App.4th 567 [32 Cal.Rptr.2d 535] (Autumn H.). The court there articulated the meaning of the exception in an opinion that has guided the thousands of Court of Appeal decisions on the exception since. (See id. at pp. 575-576; see also, e.g., Seiser & Kumli, Cal. Juvenile Courts Practice and Procedure (2020) § 2.171[5][b][ii][A]-[B].) What the appellate court emphasized in Autumn H. is a crucial aspect of the trial court’s responsibility

in these cases: in assessing whether termination would be detrimental, the trial court must decide whether the harm from severing the child’s relationship with the parent outweighs the benefit to the child of placement in a new adoptive home. (See Autumn H., supra, at p. 575.) By making this decision, the trial court determines whether terminating parental rights serves the child’s best interests.

The first element—regular visitation and contact—is straightforward. The question is just whether “parents visit consistently,” taking into account “the extent permitted by court orders.” (In re I.R. (2014) 226 Cal.App.4th 201, 212 [171 Cal.Rptr.3d 469].) Visits and contact “continue[] or develop[] a significant, positive, emotional attachment from child to parent.” (Autumn H. supra, 27 Cal.App.4th at p. 575.) Courts should consider in that light whether parents “maintained regular visitation and contact with the child” (§ 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B)(i)) but certainly not to punish parents or reward them for good behavior in visiting or maintaining contact—here as throughout, the focus is on the best interests of the child. (See Cynthia D., supra, 5 Cal.4th at p. 254.)

As to the second element, courts assess whether “the child would benefit from continuing the relationship.” (§ 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B)(i).) Again here, the focus is the child. And the relationship may be shaped by a slew of factors, such as “[t]he age of the child, the portion of the child’s life spent in the parent’s custody, the `positive’ or `negative’ effect of interaction between parent and child, and the child’s particular needs.” (Autumn H., supra, 27 Cal.App.4th at p. 576.) As the trial court and Court of Appeal did here, courts often consider how children feel about, interact with, look to, or talk about their parents. (See, e.g., Caden C., supra, 34 Cal.App.5th at p. 109 [“The record is replete with comments from various care providers attesting to the significance of the bond between mother and son”]; In re Scott B. (2010) 188 Cal.App.4th 452, 466-467, 471 [115 Cal.Rptr.3d 321] (Scott B.); In re Brandon C. (1999) 71 Cal.App.4th 1530, 1536-1537 [84 Cal.Rptr.2d 505] (Brandon C.).) Doing so properly focuses the inquiry on the child, even as courts must remain mindful that rarely do “[p]arent-child relationships” conform to an entirely consistent pattern. (In re Jasmine D. (2000) 78 Cal.App.4th 1339, 1350 [93 Cal.Rptr.2d 644] (Jasmine D.); see also In re Grace P. (2017) 8 Cal.App.5th 605, 614-615 [213 Cal.Rptr.3d 714] [“parenting styles and relationships differ greatly between families”]; In re S.B. (2008) 164 Cal.App.4th 289, 299 [79 Cal.Rptr.3d 449] [“Autumn H. does not narrowly define or specifically identify the type of relationship necessary to establish the exception”].) Certainly, it is not necessary—even if it were possible—to calibrate a precise “quantitative measurement of the specific amount of `comfort, nourishment or physical care’ [the parent] provided during [his or] her weekly visits.” (Brandon C., supra, at p. 1538.) As in this case, often expert psychologists who have observed the child and parent and

can synthesize others’ observations will be an important source of information about the psychological importance of the relationship for the child.⁴

Concerning the third element—whether “termination would be detrimental to the child due to” the relationship—the court must decide whether it would be harmful to the child to sever the relationship and choose adoption. (§ 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B); see also § 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(D).) Because terminating parental rights eliminates any legal basis for the parent or child to maintain the relationship, courts must assume that terminating parental rights terminates the relationship. (See In re C.B. (2010) 190 Cal.App.4th 102, 128 [117 Cal.Rptr.3d 846]; In re Noreen G. (2010) 181 Cal.App.4th 1359, 1391 [105 Cal.Rptr.3d 521]; see also Troxel v. Granville (2000) 530 U.S. 57, 66-67 [147 L.Ed.2d 49, 120 S.Ct. 2054].) What courts need to determine, therefore, is how the child would be affected by losing the parental relationship—in effect, what life would be like for the child in an adoptive home without the parent in the child’s life. (Cf. Celine R., supra, (2003) 31 Cal.4th at p. 55 [explaining, in discussing the “sibling relationship exception” (§ 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B)(v)), “the court should carefully consider all evidence regarding the sibling relationship as it relates to possible detriment to the adoptive child”].) As the expert who performed the bonding study in this case suggested, the effects might include emotional instability and preoccupation leading to acting out, difficulties in school, insomnia, anxiety, or depression. Yet as the experts in this case discussed, a new, stable home may alleviate the emotional instability and preoccupation leading to such problems, providing a new source of stability that could make the loss of a parent not, at least on balance, detrimental.

In each case, then, the court acts in the child’s best interest in a specific way: it decides whether the harm of severing the relationship outweighs “the security and the sense of belonging a new family would confer.” (Autumn H., supra, 27 Cal.App.4th at p. 575.) “If severing the natural parent/child relationship would deprive the child of a substantial, positive emotional attachment such that,” even considering the benefits of a new adoptive home, termination would “harm[]” the child, the court should not terminate parental rights. (Ibid.) That subtle, case-specific inquiry is what the statute asks courts to perform: does the benefit of placement in a new, adoptive home outweigh “the harm [the child] would experience from the loss of [a] significant, positive, emotional relationship with [the parent?]” (In re S.B., supra, 164 Cal.App.4th at p. 300.) When the relationship with a parent is so important to the child that the security and stability of a new home wouldn’t outweigh its loss, termination would be “detrimental to the

child due to” the child’s beneficial relationship with a parent. (§ 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B)(i), italics added.) We don’t address here what it means for termination to be detrimental due to any of the other listed exceptions. That inquiry may well differ depending on the particular exception at issue. (See § 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B)(ii)-(vi).)

When it weighs whether termination would be detrimental, the court is not comparing the parent’s attributes as custodial caregiver relative to those of any potential adoptive parent(s). Nothing that happens at the section 366.26 hearing allows the child to return to live with the parent. (See Zeth S., supra, 31 Cal.4th at p. 411.) Accordingly, courts should not look to whether the parent can provide a home for the child; the question is just whether losing the relationship with the parent would harm the child to an extent not outweighed, on balance, by the security of a new, adoptive home. (See Amber M., supra, 103 Cal.App.4th at p. 690 [finding error in not applying exception based on social worker’s testimony that “focus[ed] on [parent’s] inability to provide a home for [the children] and on the suitability of the current placements”].) Even where it may never make sense to permit the child to live with the parent, termination may be detrimental. (See Scott B., supra, 188 Cal.App.4th at pp. 471-472.) And the section 366.26 hearing is decidedly not a contest of who would be the better custodial caregiver. (See Brandon C., supra, 71 Cal.App.4th at pp. 1537-1538.)

What’s more, understanding the harm associated with severing the relationship is a subtle enterprise—sometimes depending on more than just how beneficial the relationship is. In many cases, “the strength and quality of the natural parent/child relationship” will substantially determine how detrimental it would be to lose that relationship, which must be weighed against the benefits of a new adoptive home. (Autumn H., supra, 27 Cal.App.4th at p. 575.) A child would benefit from continuing a strong, positive, and affirming relationship, and it would be destabilizing to lose that relationship. Sometimes, though, a relationship involves tangled benefits and burdens. In those cases, the court faces the complex task of disentangling the consequences of removing those burdens along with the benefits of the relationship.

This is a case in point. The experts agreed that Caden’s relationship with Mother had potentially negative features. Dr. Molesworth indicated that Caden’s bond to Mother might be “narrow”: Caden was preoccupied with Mother in a way that could impede forming other relationships. And Dr. Lieberman highlighted this aspect of the relationship. They disagreed, though, about how negative this feature actually was. Dr. Molesworth thought the “narrow” bond had not in fact impeded Caden from forming other relationships. Dr. Lieberman opined that it had. And most relevantly for whether

termination would be detrimental, the experts disagreed about the effects of severing the relationship given Caden’s preoccupation with Mother. Dr. Molesworth opined that termination could be more detrimental on account of Caden’s preoccupation than if Caden were less preoccupied with Mother. Dr. Lieberman, on the other hand, opined that termination could, in this respect, even be beneficial because it would allow Caden to focus on other relationships or activities. The trial court seems to have credited Dr. Molesworth on the ground that Dr. Lieberman hadn’t interviewed or met with Caden. A different court in a different case could find as the trial court did here that a potentially or actually negative aspect of a relationship might make termination even more detrimental. It could also find that terminating a relationship with negative aspects would have some positive effects that weigh in the balance—and may tip it in favor of severing the parental relationship to make way for adoption.

To gauge and balance these weights can be a daunting prospect for trial courts. But it’s what the statute requires—and the legislative history confirms it. In interpreting the dependency scheme in general and section 366.26 in particular, we have regularly looked to the report of the “Task Force,” which the Legislature created in 1987 to redesign the dependency system and whose recommendations the Legislature adopted. (See Cynthia D., supra, 5 Cal.4th at p. 247; Sen. Select Com. on Children & Youth, SB 1195 Task Force Rep. on Child Abuse Reporting Laws, Juvenile Court Dependency Statutes, and Child Welfare Services (Jan. 1988) p. i (hereafter Task Force Report).) The Task Force Report explained why the parental-benefit exception existed and when it should be applied: “Termination would not be permissible, however, in the following situation[]: [¶] a) Termination would be detrimental to the child due to the strength of the parent-child relationship. There is substantial clinical evidence that some children in foster care retain very strong ties to their biological parents. Since termination in such situations is likely to be harmful to the child, courts should retain parental ties if desired by both the parents and the child.” (Task Force Report, supra, at p. 11, underscoring omitted.)

The history of the statute also underscores that these three elements—visitation, a beneficial relationship, and detriment from losing it—are what the parent has to prove. Subsequent to Autumn H., the Legislature amended the statute to require a parent to show a “compelling reason for determining that termination would be detrimental to the child….” (Welf. & Inst. Code, § 366.26, subd. (c)(1)(B), italics added; see Stats. 1998, ch. 1056, § 17.1, p. 8359.) Based on this amendment, some courts suggested that parents must prove something more than Autumn H. required, some heightened level of harm or an additional “compelling reason.” (See Caden C., supra, 34 Cal.App.5th at pp. 113-114; In re Logan B. (2016) 3 Cal.App.5th 1000, 1012 [207 Cal.Rptr.3d 837]; Jasmine D., supra, 78 Cal.App.4th at p. 1349; In re Casey D. (1999) 70 Cal.App.4th 38, 51 [82 Cal.Rptr.2d 426].) But closer

examination of the legislative history of this amendment reveals the change does not impose an additional or heightened showing. The Legislature added the “compelling reason” language in section 366.26 and throughout the Welfare and Institutions Code to comply with the new Adoption and Safe Families Act of 1997 (ASFA). (Pub.L. No. 105-89 (Nov. 19, 1997) 111 Stat. 2115; see Stats. 1998, ch. 1056, p. 8392, § 27; Sen. Rules Com., Off. of Sen. Floor Analyses, 3d reading analysis of Assem. Bill No. 2773 (1997-1998 Reg. Sess.) as amended Aug. 24, 1998, p. 1 [“This bill conforms state law to the recently enacted Public Law 105-89, the Adoptions [sic] and Safe Families Act”].) That federal statute required a “compelling reason” in particular situations when an agency didn’t move to terminate parental rights, or a court declined to terminate parental rights within specified timeframes. (See 42 U.S.C. § 675(5)(C), (E)(ii).)

But ASFA didn’t specify what would count as a “compelling reason.” The Legislature accordingly specified that existing reasons in the statute to delay setting a Welfare and Institutions Code section 366.26 hearing or not to terminate parental rights were in fact compelling reasons as required by ASFA. (See, e.g., Welf. & Inst. Code, §§ 366.21, subd. (g)(1)(C)(i), (5), 366.22, subd. (a)(3), 366.3, subd. (h)(1).) The addition of “compelling” in section 366.26, subdivision (c)(1)(B) is another such example and just clarifies that, for example, the parental-benefit exception is a compelling reason not to terminate parental rights as possibly required by ASFA. In other words, where terminating a child’s substantial, positive attachment to the parent would, on balance, be detrimental to the child, that simply is a compelling reason not to terminate parental rights.⁵

What this means is that the parent asserting the parental benefit exception must show, by a preponderance of the evidence, three things. The parent must show regular visitation and contact with the child, taking into account the extent of visitation permitted. Moreover, the parent must show that the child has a substantial, positive, emotional attachment to the parent— the kind of attachment implying that the child would benefit from continuing the relationship. And the parent must show that terminating that attachment would be detrimental to the child even when balanced against the countervailing benefit of a new, adoptive home. When the parent has met that burden, the parental-benefit exception applies such that it would not be in the

best interest of the child to terminate parental rights, and the court should select a permanent plan other than adoption. (See § 366.26, subd. (c)(4)(A).) We do not further discuss the steps for selecting such a permanent plan. (See § 366.26, subd. (c)(4)(A)-(B).)

B.

We now turn to whether and how a parent’s continued struggles with the issues that led to dependency relate to application of the parental-benefit exception.

A parent’s continued struggles with the issues leading to dependency are not a categorical bar to applying the exception. As the parties before us all agree, making a parent’s continued struggles with the issues leading to dependency, standing alone, a bar to the exception would effectively write the exception out of the statute. In cases like this one, when the court sets a section 366.26 hearing, it terminates reunification services for the parent. (See § 366.21, subd. (h).) Thus, when the court holds a section 366.26 hearing, it all but presupposes that the parent has not been successful in maintaining the reunification plan meant to address the problems leading to dependency. (See also § 366.26, subd. (c)(2)(A) [court shall not terminate parental rights unless court has previously found that, to the extent required by statute, “reasonable services” were offered or provided].) The parental-benefit exception can therefore only apply when the parent has presumptively not made sufficient progress in addressing the problems that led to dependency. So, we reject the paradoxical proposition, without any basis in the statute or its history, that the exception can only apply when the parent has made sufficient progress in addressing the problems that led to dependency. Parents need not show that they are “actively involved in maintaining their sobriety or complying substantially with their case plan” (Caden C., supra, 34 Cal.App.5th at p. 112) to establish the exception.⁶

But the parties likewise agree on something else: issues such as those that led to dependency often prove relevant to the application of the exception. We agree. A parent’s struggles may mean that interaction between parent and child at least sometimes has a “`negative’ effect” on the child. (Autumn H., supra, 27 Cal.App.4th at p. 576.) For example, there was some evidence in this case that, perhaps as a result of her mental health issues, Mother sought to undermine at least some of Caden’s foster placements, which could certainly have had a negative effect on him. Conversely, a parent who gains

greater understanding of herself and her children’s needs through treatment may be in a better position to ensure that her interactions with the children have a “`positive’ … effect” on them. (Ibid.; see In re E.T., supra, 31 Cal.App.5th at p. 77 [“the insight [Mother] has into her own development and the love and care she has for her children was clear in her testimony. Mother recognized that her behavior was traumatic for the children …”].) In both scenarios, the parent’s struggles speak to the benefit (or lack thereof) of continuing the relationship and are relevant to that extent. And issues such as those leading to dependency may also be relevant to the detriment from terminating parental rights. There was some evidence in this case that Mother’s continuing substance abuse and mental health issues contributed to Caden forming what might have been a “narrow” bond with her. And there was conflicting testimony about whether the nature of Caden’s bond to Mother, associated with Mother’s substance abuse and mental health issues, would make termination more or less detrimental for Caden.

Nonetheless, the parent’s struggles with issues such as those that led to dependency are relevant only to the extent they inform the specific questions before the court: would the child benefit from continuing the relationship and be harmed, on balance, by losing it? The parent’s continuing difficulty with mental health or substance abuse may not be used as a basis for determining the fate of the parental relationship by assigning blame, making moral judgments about the fitness of the parent, or rewarding or punishing a parent. (See Cynthia D., supra, 5 Cal.4th at p. 254 [“It is not the purpose of the section 366.26 hearing to show parental inadequacy … [or] that the parents are `at fault'”]; see also Marilyn H., supra, 5 Cal.4th at p. 305; Amber M., supra, 103 Cal.App.4th at p. 690; Goldstein et al., Beyond the Best Interests of the Child (1979) p. 79.)

Nor could a parent’s struggles be relevant simply because they might conceivably affect the parent’s ability to regain custody of the child. As we have previously explained, return to the parent’s custody is not an option at the section 366.26 hearing. (See Marilyn H., supra, 5 Cal.4th at pp. 304-305.) Accordingly, whether the parent is or is not “ready for the children’s return to her custody” is not, by itself, relevant to the application of the parental-benefit exception. (Amber M., supra, 103 Cal.App.4th at p. 690.) If termination of parental rights would, when weighed against the offsetting benefits of an adoptive home, be detrimental to the child, the court should not terminate parental rights, even if the parent has not demonstrated a likelihood that he or she will ever be able to regain custody.⁷ (See Scott B., supra, 188 Cal.App.4th at pp. 471-472.)

Mother argues that a parent’s struggles should only be relevant to whether the child would benefit from continuing the relationship. They should not be considered “a second time” in deciding whether termination would be detrimental. A parent’s struggles may be most directly relevant—as Mother suggests—to the “`positive’ or `negative’ effect of interaction between parent and child” (Autumn H., supra, 27 Cal.App.4th at p. 576) and then somewhat more indirectly to the harm of removing such interactions from the child’s life. (See also Zeth S., supra, 31 Cal.4th at p. 412, fn. 9.) But how and how much the loss of a relationship with a parent may be harmful, how and how much that harm might be offset by a new family are complex questions not always answered just by determining how beneficial the child’s relationship with the parent is. Though there is no reason for a court to consider “a second time” the same struggles in the same way, a parent’s struggles with substance abuse, mental health issues, or other problems could be directly relevant to a juvenile court’s analysis in deciding whether termination would be detrimental.

C.

When courts make decisions about whether to apply the beneficial relationship exception, their decisions are subject to review. What standard applies is another question we granted review to resolve.

Courts of Appeal have come to use three different standards. Many courts review all the trial court’s findings for substantial evidence. (See, e.g., Autumn H., supra, 27 Cal.App.4th at p. 575.) Other courts have suggested that the appropriate standard is abuse of discretion because the “juvenile court is determining which kind of custody is appropriate for the child.” (Jasmine D., supra, 78 Cal.App.4th at p. 1351 [analogizing § 366.26 hearing to custody determinations at other stages of dependency proceedings].) And yet others, including the Court of Appeal in this case, have adopted a “hybrid” standard. They review whether there has been regular visitation and whether there is a beneficial relationship for substantial evidence but whether termination would be detrimental for abuse of discretion. (See In re Bailey J. (2010) 189 Cal.App.4th 1308, 1314-1315 [117 Cal.Rptr.3d 568].)

We agree with the general consensus: a substantial evidence standard of review applies to the first two elements. The determination that the parent has visited and maintained contact with the child “consistently,” taking into account “the extent permitted by the court’s orders” (Brandon C., supra,

71 Cal.App.4th at p. 1537) is essentially a factual determination. It’s likewise essentially a factual determination whether the relationship is such that the child would benefit from continuing it.

The third element—whether termination of parental rights would be detrimental to the child—is somewhat different. As in assessing visitation and the relationship between parent and child, the court must make a series of factual determinations. These may range from the specific features of the child’s relationship with the parent and the harm that would come from losing those specific features to a higher-level conclusion of how harmful in total that loss would be. The court must also determine, for the particular child, how a prospective adoptive placement may offset and even counterbalance those harms. In so doing, it may make explicit or implicit findings ranging from specific benefits related to the child’s specific characteristics up to a higher-level conclusion about the benefit of adoption all told. All these factual determinations are properly reviewed for substantial evidence. (See In re Robert L. (1993) 21 Cal.App.4th 1057, 1067 [24 Cal.Rptr.2d 654] (Robert L.) [“evaluating the factual basis for an exercise of discretion is similar to analyzing the sufficiency of the evidence for the ruling”].)

Yet the court must also engage in a delicate balancing of these determinations as part of assessing the likely course of a future situation that’s inherently uncertain. The decision is not the same as a determination whether to transfer the child from the custody of one caregiver to another, but it does require assessing what the child’s life would be like in an adoptive home without the parent in his life. (Cf. In re Stephanie M. (1994) 7 Cal.4th 295, 317-318 [27 Cal.Rptr.2d 595, 867 P.2d 706] (Stephanie M.).) The court makes the assessment by weighing the harm of losing the relationship against the benefits of placement in a new, adoptive home. And so, the ultimate decision—whether termination of parental rights would be detrimental to the child due to the child’s relationship with his parent—is discretionary and properly reviewed for abuse of discretion.

In reviewing factual determinations for substantial evidence, a reviewing court should “not reweigh the evidence, evaluate the credibility of witnesses, or resolve evidentiary conflicts.” (In re Dakota H. (2005) 132 Cal.App.4th 212, 228 [33 Cal.Rptr.3d 337].) The determinations should “be upheld if … supported by substantial evidence, even though substantial evidence to the contrary also exists and the trial court might have reached a different result had it believed other evidence.” (Ibid.; see also 9 Witkin, Cal. Procedure (5th ed. 2020) Appeal, § 365.) Uncontradicted testimony rejected by the trial court “`cannot be credited on appeal unless, in view of the whole record, it is clear, positive, and of such a nature that it cannot rationally be disbelieved.'” (Adoption of Arthur M. (2007) 149 Cal.App.4th 704, 717 [57 Cal.Rptr.3d 259].)

Review for abuse of discretion is subtly different, focused not primarily on the evidence but the application of a legal standard. A court abuses its discretion only when “`”the trial court has exceeded the limits of legal discretion by making an arbitrary, capricious, or patently absurd determination.”‘” (Stephanie M., supra, 7 Cal.4th at p. 318.) But “`”[w]hen two or more inferences can reasonably be deduced from the facts, the reviewing court has no authority to substitute its decision for that of the trial court.”‘” (Id. at p. 319; see also Robert L., supra, 21 Cal.App.4th at p. 1067 [“The reviewing court should interfere only “`if … under all the evidence, viewed most favorably in support of the trial court’s action, no judge could reasonably have made the order that he [or she] did”‘”].)

While each standard here fits a distinct type of determination under review, the practical difference between the standards is not likely to be very pronounced. Review for substantial evidence applies to factual determinations; abuse of discretion applies when a lower court must delicately balance factual determinations to assess an uncertain future situation. But where, as with the parental-benefit exception, “the appellate court will be evaluating the factual basis for an exercise of discretion, there likely will be no practical difference in application of the two standards.” (Eisenberg et al., Cal. Practice Guide: Civil Appeals and Writs (The Rutter Group 2020) ¶ 8:88, p. 8-41; see also Jasmine D., supra, 78 Cal.App.4th at p. 1351 [“The practical differences between the two standards of review are not significant”].) At its core, the hybrid standard we now endorse simply embodies the principle that “[t]he statutory scheme does not authorize a reviewing court to substitute its own judgment as to what is in the child’s best interests for the trial court’s determination in that regard, reached pursuant to the statutory scheme’s comprehensive and controlling provisions.” (Zeth S., supra, 31 Cal.4th at p. 410.)

III.

Having explained the scope of the parental-benefit exception and the standard for reviewing an application of it, we turn to the Court of Appeal’s decision in this case. The Court of Appeal found substantial evidence supported the trial court’s determinations that Mother had maintained regular visitation with Caden. (Caden C., supra, 34 Cal.App.5th at pp. 108-109.) It also found that substantial evidence supported the trial court’s determination that Caden and Mother had a beneficial relationship. (Id. at p. 109.) It held, though, that the trial court abused its discretion in finding that the relationship was a compelling reason not to terminate parental rights. (Id. at pp. 110-115.)

The Court of Appeal rested its decision to reverse on two considerations. First, it concluded that mother had not “`maintain[ed] her sobriety and

address[ed] her mental health issues.'” (Caden C., supra, 34 Cal.App.5th at p. 110.) It therefore held that “[n]o reasonable court would apply the beneficial relationship exception on this record of mother’s disengagement from treatment and case plan, inability or unwillingness to remain sober, and deficient insight regarding her parenting.” (Id. at p. 112.) Second, it reasoned that “although Caden enjoyed visiting with mother, their interactions were often detrimental to his well-being” (id. at p. 114) by contrast with his relationship with Ms. H., “the only caregiver in Caden’s life who had enabled him `to feel that he is in the care of a consistent and predictable adult who keeps him safe and reliably looks out for his physical and emotional needs'” (id. at p. 115). It therefore concluded that “when the strength and quality of mother’s relationship with Caden in a tenuous placement is properly balanced against the security and sense of belonging adoption by Ms. H. would confer, no reasonable court could have concluded that a compelling justification had been made for forgoing adoption.” (Ibid., italics added.)

The first consideration supporting reversal was improper. Even where a parent continues to struggle with addiction—and even if she believes that her addiction doesn’t make her an unfit parent—a reasonable court could conclude that termination of parental rights would, on balance, be detrimental to the child. (See Caden C., supra, 34 Cal.App.5th at p. 111.) Mother was not required, in order to establish that the parental-benefit exception applied, to put evidence in at the section 366.26 hearing that she had recently attempted to maintain her sobriety or seek treatment for her addiction or mental health issues. (See Caden C., at p. 111.) The Court of Appeal did not conclude, applying the appropriate standard of review, that the evidence showed Mother’s substance abuse or mental health issues affected whether her relationship with Caden was beneficial or whether its loss would, on balance, be detrimental to him. The Court of Appeal did not, for example, connect Mother’s substance abuse or mental health to its emphasis on contested evidence about whether Caden’s visits with Mother “were often detrimental to his well-being.” (Id. at p. 114.) It also did not explain how its reliance on that contested evidence fit with its determination that “it cannot be seriously disputed that Caden had a beneficial relationship with mother—that is, a significant relationship the termination of which would cause him detriment.” (Id. at p. 109.) And so, the Court of Appeal’s holding that no reasonable court could apply the parental-benefit exception given Mother’s substance abuse and mental health issues was error.

Because we find that the Court of Appeal’s first consideration was erroneous, we reverse. Accordingly, we do not address the court’s second consideration in detail. In particular, we don’t decide whether the Court of Appeal failed to view “all the evidence, … most favorably in support of the trial

court’s actions” (Robert L., supra, 21 Cal.App.4th at p. 1067) or improperly “substitute[d] its own judgment” (Zeth S., supra, 31 Cal.4th at p. 410) for the trial court’s.

The juvenile court declined to terminate parental rights nearly three years ago. We now hold that the Court of Appeal, in reversing that decision, erred. And so, we reverse the Court of Appeal. More recently, the Agency filed a new petition to terminate parental rights, and the trial court held a new hearing and terminated Mother’s parental rights. That subsequent decision renders moot the earlier decision not to terminate parental rights. On remand, the Court of Appeal should therefore dismiss this appeal as moot. (See People v. DeLeon (2017) 3 Cal.5th 640, 660 [220 Cal.Rptr.3d 784, 399 P.3d 13].)

IV.

The dependency statutes were enacted to prevent harm to children. They prevent harm at the outset of the dependency process by removing children from situations where they are likely to suffer abuse or neglect. But they also prevent harm in the process of selecting permanent placement through the parental-benefit exception, by allowing certain children to preserve emotionally important parental relationships. This exception allows a child a legal basis for maintaining a relationship with the child’s parent if severing that relationship would, on balance, harm the child. The exception preserves the child’s right to the relationship even when the child cannot safely live with that parent. What it does not allow is a judgment about the parent’s problems to deprive a child of the chance to continue a substantial, positive relationship with the parent. Accordingly, we reverse the judgment of the Court of Appeal and remand with directions to dismiss the appeal as moot.

Cantil-Sakauye, C. J., Corrigan, J., Liu, J., Kruger, J., Groban, J., and Jenkins, J., concurred.

S.F. Human Servs. Agency v. Christine C. (In re Caden C.)

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What does 2 Corinthians 5:10 mean?

Previous verses described Paul’s longing to leave behind the suffering of earthly life and his failing, temporary body. His motivation is not suicide, but a desire to be with the Lord in eternity and receive his eternal, resurrected body. Knowing that day is guaranteed, someday, gives him courage to keep fulfilling the mission God has given to him. That security allows Paul to endure, and to carry the gospel to more and more people. His goal in whatever he does, Paul has written, is to please the Lord.

One motivation to please God is Paul’s knowledge that he will be judged by Christ for his works in this life. Paul insists that all believers in Jesus will appear before the judgment seat of Christ when He returns to earth. Paul is clear in his letters that this judgment is not about salvation. Christ will not declare in that moment whether someone will go to heaven or hell. In no sense is this verse implying that that judgment, or the deeds it examines, are what decide someone’s eternal fate. Salvation is a gift given to everyone who trusts in Christ. Paul’s gospel is that the gift of salvation is “not by works” (Ephesians 2:8–9), or nobody could achieve it (Romans 3:23; 6:23).

The judgment seat of Christ is something exclusively for believers, as Christ’s evaluation of our works on earth. This refers to an assessment of what each saved, heaven-bound Christian has done “in the body” since coming to faith in Christ. How has he or she used this life in Christ? What have they done, for good or for evil? Paul wrote in Romans 14:12 that each believer will “give an account of himself to God.”

How will Christ respond? Every good action will be rewarded. Christians will receive those efforts “back from the Lord” (Ephesians 6:8). The works of those who have lived only for themselves, however, will be “burned up” or shown to be worthless. “If anyone’s work is burned up, he will suffer loss, though he himself will be saved, but only as through fire” (1 Corinthians 3:15).

Paul is motivated by the awareness of this coming judgment, and he wants his readers to be motivated by it, as well. God’s grace to us in forgiving sin does not mean He’s careless about how Christians live our earthly lives. We will stand before Him and be held to account for our choices. That accountability does not affect our eternal destiny. It declares our time as spent well or foolishly, courageously or cowardly, in faith or in spiritual blindness and selfishness. The consequences of reward or reprimand in that moment will be genuinely pleasurable and/or painful, based on the choices we have made in our bodies on this side of eternity.

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Lord, I thank You that I am Your child and that there is nothing that can separate me from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus – but Lord I know that there are many deeds in my life, which will have to be judged as bad deeds. I pray Lord that from this day forward I may live my life as unto You, in Jesus name I pray, In Jesus mighty name, amen.

Psalms 6:7-9      NLT My vision is blurred by grief;
my eyes are worn out because of all my enemies.
Go away, all you who do evil, for the LORD has heard my weeping.
The LORD has heard my plea; the LORD will answer my prayer.

God will help you avoid temptation

– 1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.

Low minded men care solely about appearances,
but a Christian holds his convictions at all times
Especially when no one else is watching!

• courage
• strength
• temperance
• humility
• patience
• mercy
• generosity
• nobility
• hope