How To Become A High Value Man

In 2022 the feminism has grown to overwhelming proportions and society has raised men without dignity, self respect, respect for others that respect them, correction to those who do not respect them. A Man must have his balls and find his direction! You can read all the reading your want on sites like this, at some point you MUST TAKE ACTION. Life will gladly pass you by, hand you nothing, leave you stuck and if all you can do is whine and cry and ask for government permanent assistance you are in the hopeless stage. This is correctable but you need to raise yourself esteem if this is the case.

Self Esteem – The foundation of a High Value Man

Self esteem is the foundation of all humans treatment of oneself and therefor will determine how life will turn out for them.  Not many are born with high self-esteem, many who have it since youth had it from a talent that was much greater than their peers. Mine was computer science in 1984 when I was 7 I won 1st place in Computer Science.  Back then it was an Apple IIc and the language was BASIC, just a blinking little cursor.  I wrote an adventure video game that many kids ended up enjoying while at Page School in Hancock Park, Ca. Year after year I took the trophy’s for being #1 with the NERD BOX as many called it back then. I also played sports, was a very avid baseball player.  I have many trophy’s for 1st & 2nd place in baseball back when WE HAD TO EARN THEM, participation awards did NOT EXIST! This achievements allowed my inner self to grow.  The schools were always fair and chose different Team captains, I was always chosen in the Top 3.  This subconscious observation formed my naturally take on leadership roles within my peer base.

Everyone is great at something, so great that others are not easily competing in that category.  The Lord, God gave us ALL TALENTS, many never search so many never find.  It is your job to your mental health, happiness and self esteem to dig deep for this search if your have not found YOUR TALENT.  Now I have guided many others into helping themselves through God and believing your can change.  Self Esteem and Good feelings come from our creator, he gives us all we need.  Fear is produced from evil, one who has NO TRUST in God will not have courage.  Getting rid of negative people around you, negative environments, haters, soul draining people need to be removed.  If they are family I understand its hard.  Find space fix your first! dealing with others insanity will be 100X easier when your do A LITTLE HOUSE CLEANING WITH YOURSELF!

Be good to you! seriously! treat your body and mind like you care! Exercise, eat right, abstain from negative substances that chemically alter your brain long after their use like drugs and alcohol.  Quiet time to search mentally and Exercise will help build good emotions and chemistry.  Prayer will increase this, quietly speaking to your creator in your mind in a quiet room brings enormous peace.  Like I said positive feelings are from our creator.  None of this works overnight so don’t expect this too. I am not selling this to you so understand it takes time and I am being honest!

Get over your past

We all got that past, all of us… Even judges DA’s priests, etc… We all have a past. Never let that be the reason you cannot change or rethink things.  If you knew half the path life threw at me you would not want these shoes. The self esteem story above was one of the highlights.  Everyone’s life has the less favorable happen to it.  I will tell you that once I was able to overcome my adversities I was able to build 2 very successful companies and I never have to worry about money.

Find Positive Replacement for Negative

I believe in God praying and little time outs to think good things is good for you! Spending my time taking care of my work and pets which keeps me mentally sharp and physically up and moving.  I exercise daily 300 pushups and eat organic food to absorb the most possible nutrients and least chemicals! A healthy body produces healthy chemistry, fights cancer, makes your body work better (men you know) and you can protect your family much easier being spiritually, mentally and physically in shape.

1. The Basics to Male High-Value Traits
2. He Is Emotionally Intelligent
3. He Has a Purpose
4. He Takes Care of Himself
5. He Has High Self-Esteem
6. He Generates His Own Self-Esteem
7. He Is Assertive
8. He Knows Power Dynamics
9. He Is Honest To His Own Value System
10. He Has A Growth Mindset
11. He Takes Responsibility
12. A Man With Purpose – Finds Passion, Chases Passion
13. Demonstrate Resilience
14. Communicate Clear & Well
15. Foster Healthy Relationships
16. Gain Valuable Resources & Connections
17. Be Consistent, Discipline is the KEY TO SUCCESS
18. Command Respect with your Presence.

The Basics to Male High-Value Traits

“It’s not enough to be a high-value man; you have to know how to be one.” You might have heard this phrase before, but what does it really mean? In order to answer that question, we’ve put together a list of 24 ways in which men can raise their value as attractive individuals. They aren’t easy, but they are manageable and they will help you achieve your ultimate goal. First off, take the time to read through this list.  This article leverages sound psychology to get to the core of what makes a high-quality man. Every single trait directly affects personality or, more or less indirectly, allows the individual to acquire important life assets such as status, resources, mates, or friends.To keep the list concise, the traits are high-level and can be broken down into further subsets.

He Is Emotionally Intelligent

Emotional intelligence, as defined by Goleman and Tradberry,  includes many important personality traits that make people successful both in life and in relationships.

It includes:

• Self-awareness: one’s own emotions, drives, personality, passions
• Self-management: deferring pleasure, staying power, grit
• Social awareness: other people’s emotions and social dynamics
• Relationship management: building and managing positive relationships

Although some psychologists contest the existence of emotional intelligence as a measurable trait, we can all agree that the above subsets of the emotional intelligence trait do exist and that they vary from person to person.

All of the above are important qualities for a high-value man because they heavily influence his ability to acquire social status, move forward in life, develop as a man and, finally, effectively relate with others. This includes his ability to acquire friends, gain allies, and develop healthy relationships with women.

Self Awareness + Self Management

Some people get emotional intelligence all wrong.

They think it’s some touchy-feely approach to life, sitting on a mat and doing yoga, crying, or being “vulnerable“.

But it’s not.
Self-awareness and self-management are what differentiate men who meander around life from those who know where they’re going.

When you have self-awareness you don’t go around asking “what’s my passion” your whole life long.
Because self-aware men know what their passions are. And with self-management, they work to get there.

That’s the N.1 cluster of traits of a high-quality man: personal drive, the ability to identify what they want to achieve with their drive, and the mental faculties to draft a plan, learn along the way, adjust, and stay the course.

Knowing what you want sets, high-quality men, apart from the masses that follow what others want them to do.
And self-management, without mincing words, is what differentiates the bums from the high achievers of this world.

Low-quality men who go nowhere chase the immediate high of booze and drugs, without any regard for tomorrow (and for themselves).
High achievers instead work their way to the top by deferring pleasure and doing what needs to be done.

Social Awareness + Relationship Management

Some people think this is about long talks and hand-holding.

Which it might as well be when the situation calls for it.
But it’s also much more.

Social awareness is the equivalent of self-awareness applied to social situations. It allows high-quality men to understand the social dynamics around them. Who’s in charge, who’s confident, who’s chasing whom and who is submissive, and who counts for nothing.

Social awareness also helps men correctly tailor their behavior to the environment and the situation, forming the basis of charm, charisma, and everything else related to social skills.

Relationship management leverages social awareness to build a network of positive and value-adding relationships.

These are all traits you can increase with focus.
In a way, you could see this whole website as a big platform to increase your emotional intelligence.

He Has a Purpose

When a man knows what he wants and likes, then it only takes a minimum amount of drive to develop a purpose.

A purpose, in Simon Sinek’s words, means a man has a WHY.

And when a man knows his WHY he moves through life with confidence and purpose. He displays the charismatic leadership qualities of those who seem to know their paths, even when it’s dark and difficult.
It’s especially captivating for those who don’t know where they’re going which, of course, is the vast majority.

A purpose is what differentiates the men spending their evening watching football and drinking beer from those who work and plot to move ahead in life.

Example: James Bond

James Bond is so charismatic and attractive to women also because he always seems to be on a bigger pursuit:

Reversal of Purpose: When It’s Too Focused

A relentless drive to achieve a certain goal will definitely make it more likely you will achieve that goal.

But, depending on your goal, it can come at the cost of the overall personality.
The stereotype of the crazy genius with bad air and a messy place is the tale of a man with too single-minded drive.
And you can already see the limitations there.

Could you have a conversation with someone who lives and breathes for only, say, black holes research?
Would such a man fare well in a crowd of socialites, at an art gallery, or a housewarming party?
Exactly, he would be out of place and sticking out like a sore thumb.

Could he manage a happy relationship?
Hardly.
Too driven people also often don’t make for good relationship partners (see Einstein), friends, or even conversation partners.

To be a high-quality man, you also need some balance.
And if your life goal does not include people, you also need to develop people skills to become a high-quality -and happier- man.

He Takes Care of Himself

Driven men with a purpose look at themselves as if they were machines.

And they have the mindset that the more they take care of the machine, the farther they will go.

Also, they know how things work, and they know that the dichotomy of “being or appearing” is nonsense.
The two feed into each other. Everyone judges the book also from its cover, so you also need to take care of that book cover.

So high-quality men always:

• Eat well
• Exercise
• Keep learning and investing in themselves.

High-quality men are like a high-quality wine.
You meet them today and they’re good. You stick with them and tomorrow they’re very good. You stick with them until the day after tomorrow and they’re great.

… And Of People Around, Because They Got Leadership Qualities

Equally important, high-quality men take responsibility for the people around them as well.

Taking responsibility for things and people around is what turns high-quality men into high-quality leaders.

Simon Sinek says that taking care of people is the most important trait of leadership.
And, contrary to high-quality women, leadership qualities are a must for high-quality men.

He Has High Self-Esteem

Attention here:

It’s self-esteem, not confidence.
Self-esteem is different.

Confidence ebbs and flows depending on your results and skills in a given field. But self-esteem stays.
Confidence is founded on strengths and results, while self-esteem encompasses losses and weakness.

He Generates His Own Self-Esteem

Why is this important?

Because as long as you depend on external forces to prop up your ego and self-esteem, you will always be dependent on those external forces.

And, of course, dependence is the root cause of all potential weaknesses.

Now, granted, few people if any can reach a level of being completely independent of results, the external environment, and other people’s opinions.

But high-quality men have much stronger control of their own self-esteem than most other men.
I call this “the antifragile-ego“.

Men with an antifragile ego enjoy more confidence, more internal strength, and more emotional resilience in the face of adversities.

Since a man with an antifragile does not build his self-esteem around other people’s approval, he is more confident in his opinion. Even when they are unpopular.

These high-quality men are not afraid of standing up for what they believe in because they don’t need your approval.
They look like they have stronger inner conviction than anyone else, and everyone looks up to people with inner conviction.
Especially in times of uncertainty. They are our rock in the hurricane.

He Is Assertive

Alphas & Sigmas Will definitely be men of much higher value, sigmas holding the crown as they are tied to moral law over popularity, but both men equally posses high value traits 

learn more about their differences psychologically here: Alpha vs Sigma: The Dominant Sigma Male

Assertiveness is the sweet spot that allows the high-quality man to:

• Speak up for his rights, without undermining others’
• Expect and demand fair treatment, while treating others respectfully
• Seek power, while respecting others’ right to self-determination

The high-quality man adopts this mantra of assertive communication:

Say what you mean, mean you what you say, without being mean

In contrast, the passive man is too afraid to speak and enforce his boundaries, and that puts him in a weak position in life. Whenever the passive man meets bullies and manipulators, he lets them take advantage of him.

And the aggressive man instead takes advantage of others’ lack of power and assertiveness.
He hides behind a facade of “honesty” and “getting things done”, but it’s just a cover-up for bullying.

He Has a Secure Attachment Style

When a man has a secure attachment style he is emotionally mature.

Men with a secure attachment style are comfortable with intimacy.
They are not afraid of loving, of opening up, and at the same time, they are not afraid of abandonment.

Men with an avoidant or anxious attachment style find it difficult to maintain long and strong relationships.

Vulnerability

Vulnerability is a high-quality trait because it highlights the courage of being oneself.
Including the flaws.

Truly vulnerable men step out of the fakeness rat race and are more likely to achieve a contagiously soothing inner confidence.

Vulnerability also makes sure that:

• He is genuine: You get to know the real him: he’s not wearing any mask
• He is more honest: It’s when you can accept your shortcomings, including your darker side, that you also gain the freedom of speaking your mind
• He is uplifting: He doesn’t need to “prove” his masculinity by abusing others

Example: Lewis Howes

Lewis Howes, author of The Mask of Masculinity, is a great example of a high-quality man with a secure attachment style and who also manages to fully embrace vulnerability.

The guy is warm, welcoming and he always gives off the vibe of a man who is just being himself, comfortable being himself, with little or no social masks.
See an example:

He fully opens up, doesn’t try to sound cooler, doesn’t even try to stand straight to look better

He Knows Power Dynamics

Power dynamics are advanced social skills.

And you don’t get to high quality without being advanced in some crucial areas of life.
And since humans are social animals, social skills is one of those areas where you need to reach an advanced level, no matter what your chosen life path is.

High-quality men know what’s fair and not fair, what’s friendly and what’s rude, and what they can take and what they will not take.

And they set and enforce their boundaries accordingly.

The high-quality man is not a too nice guy afraid of standing up for himself.
And when someone crosses his boundaries, he will let them know he’s not cool with it and that he has to insist on the limits he thinks are fair.

He will also do it with higher-ups, because he doesn’t take gratuitous meanness and disrespect, not even from a boss.
High-quality men know that disrespect is a slippery slope, and if you allow it to happen once, people lose respect for you and they will keep doing it.
They know it’s a risk, but their self-respect and their moral code is worth more than a job (plus high-quality men can usually get good jobs anyway).

At the upper echelons, high-quality men will also defend the boundaries of the people they care for and the people they take responsibility for.

And of course, needless to say, they demand fair behavior at home as well and they take no disrespect.
If their spouse cheats, she’s out.
And if she threatens to break up, they know how to handle it.

He Is Honest To His Own Value System

High-quality men don’t indiscriminately accept value systems from others.

There is no shortage of people telling men how they should behave these days:

• Religions
• Women
• Mom and dad
• MGTOW
• Red Pill
• This or that author…

High-value men listen attentively to them all.
But, ultimately, they build their own value system and have their own moral compass. That’s what they stick to.

There are many different value systems that can make a man high value. However, there are a few constraints.
Alpha male is different. You can be a piece of shit and be an alpha male. But you can’t be a piece of shit and be a high-value man.

For example, high-quality men:

• Don’t get into a relationship if they want to sleep around
• Don’t promise endless love if they don’t plan to stick around
• If they promise something, they will do their best to make it happen

And, if they get into a relationship and promise monogamy, they’ll try to stick with it (and demand the same back).

He Has A Growth Mindset

Carol Dweck in her seminal psychological research outlines two different approaches people have to skills and talent:

• Fixed mindset
• Growth mindset

Fixed Mindset people believe their qualities are set at birth and carved in stone.
You are who you are, and there isn’t much you can do about it.

People with a fixed mindset shy away from challenges because losing means “they’re bad” and that would hurt their ego.
These people are highly outcome dependent and when they fail, they make a lot of excuses because they feel the need to “cover up” their lack.

It’s difficult having open discussions and honest feedback with fixed mindset men because they are always guarded and take things very personally.

Growth Mindset people believe they can learn and grow.
They seek learning and growth opportunities because failing does not define them. On the contrary,  failing is the only way they can improve.

Men with a growth mindset move forward in their lives, are open to feedback and criticism, and are generally happier and more pleasant people to be around.

He Takes Responsibility

The locus of control is the degree to which people believe that they have -or don’t have- control over their life.

These are the two types of locus of control:

• Internal locus of control
• External locus of control

Internal locus of control means you believe you are in control of your life.
External locus of control means you believe life events determine the course of your life and you don’t have control over them.

The locus of control determines whether you feel like you’re at the helm of your life or like a castaway in a rudderless lifeboat.
And high-quality men feel like they are at the helm of their lives.

Taking responsibility starts with your own life first and foremost: you take responsibility for your current station in life, and for where you want to go.

Great leadership is an extension of this principle. Great leadership rests on responsibility and a sense of ownership. It’s the responsibility of taking care not just for oneself, but for those around, and the feeling that you can help your group with your leadership.

This is also the best, and healthier way to be a leader in your relationship, which in turn is the healthiest of also maintaining attraction and, as a side consequence, control.

Example: Tom Bilyeu

Tom Bilyeu didn’t build a billion-dollar company by accident.
He built one because he has a mindset whereby he takes ownership of everything that happens in his life.

Tom Bilyeu is an example of an extreme locus of control:

Tom: Everything is your fault

Also read Extreme Ownership or Ultimate Power (locus of control is one of the tenets for mental power).

An internal locus of control also shields you from superstitious BS. I remember a girlfriend of mine asking if “I really didn’t believe at all in the horoscope”.
She loved me much more when I told her that men like myself are incompatible with the horoscope. The horoscope tells you what’s going to happen to you. It tells you what your path is going to look like. So then what, you can just sit back and let it unfold? That’s inconceivable.
We don’t let anyone tell us what’s going to happen to us, because we, and we alone, are at the helm of our lives.

Become A High Value Man With Purpose

Be a gentleman – Not Overated

Being a gentleman means that you are respectful to women and never act in a way that is offensive or demeaning. This is an easy point to understand, but it doesn’t mean everyone will fully comprehend it because there are still people out there who think it is okay to treat women in the disrespectful way they did in the 1800s.If you want to become more attractive, you should certainly be a gentleman. 

Display high status symbols

In order to be a high value man, you need to show off some status symbols. This could be a nice car or some luxury items that people want.

You don’t have to go overboard with this, but there are certain things that are expected of you if you want to take on a high value role in people’s lives.

Work hard on your goals and targets

If you want to be high value, then you need to work hard in order to meet your goals.

Pay attention to your daily goals, but when you don’t meet them try to figure out why. There are usually a few things that can be worked on here and there.

Act like a leader

Leaders always have high status in their groups. Leaders aren’t very popular, but they always have high status because they work hard to get the job done. They aren’t afraid to make difficult decisions and they take responsibility for their actions. You should think of yourself as a leader who is willing to take risks to achieve your goals. You might not be the most popular, but you’ll always have high status.

Be a life-lover

Life-lovers have mastered the art of living in the moment and enjoying everything that comes their way. They don’t complain about anything and they take every opportunity that comes their way. You shouldn’t complain about anything either because that makes you low value and low status.

Know yourself inside and out

Know yourself as well as you can before you try to become a high value man. This will make it easier for you to act like a leader, take risks and control your life. The more in control, the better man you will be.

Dress for success

Dressing well is crucial to being a high value man. Dressing well shows that you are well put together and prepared for life’s many challenges. It’s important that you can expect people to take you seriously when you go out of your way to make sure that you look good.

Don’t complain about anything

Don’t complain about anything in public because it makes you look weak and low value. It also shows that you’re not confident in your abilities, which is a huge turnoff for a lot of people. The worst part about complaining is that it makes you look weak and irrational; two things that can’t be helped if you want to become high value.

Learn to analyze

People who are analytical can often see what is going on in the world in a very different way than the average person. If you analyze things and have the ability to take all of your observations and put it into action, then you will become a very successful man. This is true whether it is business or personal because if you understand how other people think and make decisions, then you will have an advantage over those that do not keep themselves updated with current events.

Be a man of the world

Being a man of the world means that you are willing to keep yourself informed about what is going on in the world. Being educated and connected to current events helps in several different ways. When you understand exactly what is going on, you can be more attractive as a person.  Most importantly, you will have an advantage over men that have not kept up with current events because they will be at a huge disadvantage.

Create a strong network of friendships and relationships

Being popular makes you more attractive because people will want to associate with someone that other people like. If you are popular and have a great social life, a lot of people will want to be your friend simply because you are fun to be around. Those that do not have a well-established social circle will have more difficulty establishing lasting relationships with women; however, you can become successful by creating strong social groups to help you get dates.

Improve your finances

High value men are financially independent. They are in a position to live the lifestyle that they want, and they know how to spend money effectively.

Know how to make good first impressions

First impressions are crucial to getting high status. If people see you working hard, looking good and even being nice to them, then they’ll think that you have high social value. However, if they see you working hard, but acting like a jerk or dressing like a slob, then they’ll think that you have low status.

Give value to people

You can actually give value to people without giving them everything they want. For example, you can give value if you buy a cup of coffee for a coworker, help a friend move or even just look them in the eye and smile. Giving value is smart because it makes people feel good about themselves and they are more likely to want to give you the same treatment in return.

Be smart, clever and practical

If you want to become a high value man, then it’s important that you are smart, clever and practical in your everyday life. You don’t need to be the smartest person in the room, but you should be clever enough so that if you see someone having problems, you can come up with a practical solution for them.

Don’t take life too seriously

Being able to take a joke and not take life too seriously is one of the most attractive qualities that a man can possess.

Recognizing your true worth

A high value man knows what he has to offer to the world. He doesn’t see himself as superior to others, but rather as a guide and leader.  He’s responsible for his own actions and knows that he deserves the best in return. A high value man doesn’t feel like being admired is a burden; on the contrary, he’s more than happy to have people look up to him, because that means they are following his example. The ultimate goal is to be valuable to yourself and those around you.

Be yourself

Sometimes when we’re putting our best foot forward, we can end up coming across as fake people by trying too hard. If you want to be a high value man, you should be yourself and focus on being authentic. This means that even if there are things about yourself that you aren’t too proud of, like your inability to dance, then it’s okay.  Just be honest about what you’re good at and what you aren’t.

Get rid of old habits

Old habits can hold you back in more ways than one, and it’s important that you let go of them. Whether this means getting rid of old eating habits or bad habits like smoking, the sooner you can kick these things to the curb, the better off you’ll be. You should also make sure that your new habits are healthy ones, like exercising regularly or sticking to a clean diet.

Being a high-value man means knowing that you’re a man

Knowing that you are a man, and not just any man. Being sure that you are unique, important, and irreplaceable. People love to feel wanted, so why not make them feel exactly that? High-value men take command of their lives, lead the way and inspire others toward a better future. This all relates back to the incredible advice I learned from Kate Spring. She is a relationship expert who has transformed dating and relationships for thousands of men. One of the most valuable things she teaches is this:

• Women don’t choose the guy who will treat them the best. They choose guys they are deeply attracted to at a biological level.
• Women don’t like assholes because they’re assholes. They like assholes because those guys are confident and they give off the right signals to them. The sort of signals a woman can’t resist.
• What if I told you that you could quickly learn the right signals to give to women – and you absolutely don’t need to become an asshole in the process?

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